Kids are renowned for being tight-lipped after school. Meanwhile, us parents are BUSTING to know every little detail from the day!!
Avoid vague inquiries
They’ve spent a good few hours without us, which means they’ve played with other kids, learned a lot of things and talked about a whole range of different topics, and we naturally want to know as much as possible. But asking a big question like ‘How was your day?’ is just too broad for a kid to tackle, which explains why they often respond with ‘Good!’, and this tells us nothing about what they’ve been up to.
To get more of a response from your child about how their day went, try getting more specific and creative with your questions, which will inform you a whole lot more about how they experienced their time away from you. It will also help you pick up on any areas they might be struggling with, for example a subject they find frustrating or a child they have trouble getting on with.
Ask open-ended questions
Don’t forget to explore topics that you think you need to know more about, but do your best to avoid closed-ended questions which require a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ response. These usually end the conversation rather than expand on it. Statements like ‘Tell me a little more about that’ or ‘How did that make you feel?’ will help you open up the conversation more so you can explore topics with your child.
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21 questions for you to try
The following is a huge list of questions that you can consider using instead of ‘How was your day?’. Of course, you don’t need to use this whole list every day – pick two or three each day until you find what you child responds best to.
- What made you really happy today?
- What wasn’t so good about today?
- What did your teacher do that was nice?
- Who made you really laugh today?
- Who did you sit next to in class?
- Did you make any art?
- Where’s the best place to play at school?
- What did you do that made you feel proud today?
- Who did you help today?
- Who helped you out?
- What was your favourite thing you ate at lunch?
- What was something interesting you learned today?
- What was the hardest thing you learned about today?
- Who would you like to sit next to in class?
- If you were friends with aliens, who would you ask them to take away in their space ship?
- What book did your teacher read to you in class?
- What new word did you learn today?
- Was it anyone’s birthday in your class today?
- Who did you hang out with at recess?
- Tell me about a time you felt confused in class today?
- What did your teacher do that was funny today?
This article was originally published on Babyology.
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