It's Valentine's Day. 'So What!?' you cry, 'Exactly' is the usual response.
Whether it's a Hallmark holiday or an important milestone, there are things you can do no matter your budget or emotional bandwidth. Plus who wouldn't absolutely fall off their chair with joy if their partner surprised them with some flowers, wine, offering to do the washing up after dinner. Right?
In our busy lives as soon as something requires more effort than simply turning up, you turn off. Maybe that’s why this Valentine's day can be all the more special, because you make the effort. And that means the world to your partner.
To help out during the ideas drought, Laura Ruston from Out and About Baby has five ways to celebrate your love when your forgot it was V-day.
1. Crack out the picnic rug
It’s tried and tested and suits all levels of organisation. Whether it's super simple like buying a pizza and heading to your local park, or fancy cheese, champagne and fairy lights.
"In my current state of life and then you know if you've got time to make some cute little picnic food you know corn fritters that like have great hidden veggies in them for the kids and things like that. But if you don't have time who cares. Go to your favourite local pizza place get a takeaway pizza and a good bottle of red and watch the sunset added points if you're by the water." Laura jokes.
If a babysitter isn’t on the cards at this late stage (better luck next time)Laura says that a picnic with kids doesn’t have to be mayhem. "Choose a really great park that's nearby. If you've got toddlers choose one that has a really great fenced in playground you don't feel like you have to chase after them every five minutes ... You get to watch the sun set over the water and the kids can just play. It is beautiful."
Listen to Laura on Kinderling Conversation
2. Make dinner a special occasion from budget to glitz
It doesn’t have to be a Michelin starred restaurant, and you don’t need a babysitter. You could go to a family friendly restaurant where strangers won’t sigh heavily every time your baby makes a noise. Plus you don’t have to do the cleaning up.
If going out seems like hell on earth, make the effort at home. Set the dinner table, buy a nice bottle of wine or preferred fizzy beverage, heck even light a candle or two. If Lady and The Tramp had one of the most romantic meals of all time in an alley surrounded by rubbish bins, a candle lit dinner at home with clean cutlery and some soft background music can work wonders.
3. Book a night out at the movies in your loungeroom
Gone are the days of spending an hour at your local video store trying to find the perfect date-night flick. The wonders of modern technology mean that it barely takes any effort (or pre planning) to set up the evening on the couch. Don't forget to prepare popcorn before the kids have gone to bed; the last thing you want is your little one off to the land of nod only to wake them up with you cinema snacks. “Go to a bit of effort, before the baby goes to bed pop some popcorn, because the smell and the noise isn't going to be really conducive to sleep. So maybe do that before the baby goes to bed … Light that special candle that you've been saving. And make sure you've got some good ice cream in the freezer" Laura adds.
4. Take a late afternoon walk together
Even if it’s just around the block, going for a walk with your partner, baby strapped in, holding hands is a great alternative to a 10-course degustation for the sleep deprived parent. For starters you can commit to a distance as short as around the block, or up hill and down dale for the active wear loving fitspo parents out there. Plus, it's free. You can hold hands and struggle for breath together, it's a truly unifying experience.
"Go for an early evening stroll ... Still strap the baby on too for those 10 bonus points for burning extra calories. Go for a walk and talk. Hold hands. Because really that connection that touch is also really important to foster” Laura says.
5. Give your partner a massage
Now if you’re on the giving end all the time, or so you think, this one is a doozey. If you find your partner with empty hands toward the end of the evening just sidle on up to them, and place their hands on your shoulders with a wry smile. If they don't take the hint, stare them in the eyes with all the love and desperation of a parent who is exhausted and say "If you really love me you will rub my shoulders."
Plus Laura adds that there's a physical chemical reaction to a massage, it's not just a mental thing. "Oxytocin is also known as the love hormone. Just give your partner a massage and you know it's so wonderful your body will feel this wonderful thing called oxytocin and it's just it's a really nice way to just end the night before you both pass out again."
If these suggestions sound achievable, you should almost definitely slide it into your loved ones DMS.
Happy Valentine's Day lazy lovers!
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