As a new dad, it can often feel like you're the support act to the main event that is mum. After all, she's the one that gave birth and has nipples that work.
Despite all this, there's plenty of lovely ways for dads to bond with their new bundles of joy.
“Babies are wired to be social beings,” says Beth Barclay, director of Mothercraft for Babies. “Bonding is all about establishing a healthy and loving attachment, which is critical for baby, mum and dad.”
Beth shares a few easy options to make the most of dad-and-bub's quality time and start a strong relationship early.
1. Skin-to-skin touch
The benefits of plenty of skin-to-skin time with mum right after birth are well known, but this is something that can be enjoyed with dad too.
“Touch is a big part of building attachment,” says Beth. “Babies feel loved through touch, so it’s just as important for dads to have skin-to-skin time.” A good way to do this is have dad hold baby naked on his chest right after a feed, when baby will cosy up and enjoy the extended cuddle.
2. Baby massage
Similar to the above, baby massage uses lots of gentle touch, which babies love and need from us. Baby massage can also incorporate lots of eye contact and time for chat while dad works his magic on baby’s body, making it a time of real connection.
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Not all newborns relish in being naked, says Beth, but this won’t necessarily last forever. If your bub isn’t ready for massage right away, simply wait a week or two before trying again. Once babies are more awake and aware of their surroundings, you might find them enjoying the experience more.
3. Bath time bonding
“Bath time is a great opportunity for dads to bond with baby,” says Beth. If dad can get home from work in time, a nightly bath routine can be a special bonding time for him and bub, that all of you can look forward to at the end of the day – you get to take a break from the parenting, and dad gets to swoop in and enjoy some one-on-one with bub.
4. Walking together
Using a baby carrier to take his new baby out for strolls is a great opportunity for dad to enjoy some quality interaction with baby. Having baby in the carrier keeps baby nice and close to dad’s chest, which offers security and warmth, as well as the chance to chat about what they can see in the street as they walk.
5. Reading stories
Reading stories is something else that can be worked into a daily routine, and it’s a habit that can last a lifetime. Not only this, but research has revealed that dads that read to their children can positively affect their creative development, says Beth. “Dads tend to relate what they’re reading in the book to real life experiences,” says Beth, which has a great impact on imagination and language down the track.
Babies love singing, which is known for its calming effects on babies and is a big reason why nursery rhymes go down so well with children of all ages. Regardless of the quality of dad’s voice, coming up with a special song that is just between the two of them is a lovely way to spend quality time together, and something that can become a regular ritual that’s just for them.
7. Settling and soothing
Spending time settling baby to sleep can be a beautiful way to bond, and according to Beth, dads make great settlers. To make the most of this skill, dads can help out during the night by settling baby back to sleep after a feed, which means you can get back to snoozeville a lot quicker.
It also allows dad and baby to spend some quality time together in the quiet of the night, which, despite its challenges, can be pretty special.
This article was originally published on Babyology.
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