3 ways a security blanket helps your child’s development

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Lana Hallowes’ littlest has a ‘lovie’- a security blanket that’s been through thick and thin with him. But it turns out these beloved comforters are hugely important for children’s development.

My youngest has a lovie. She’s (yes, we’ve established Lovie is a girl) is an old, blue faded baby blanket. He treats her like she’s a second me. He will cry out for her when he’s upset, and he can’t calm down until he has her to soak up his tears, even if I am cuddling him. He also can’t fall asleep unless he’s snuggling her. Lovie even accompanies him to kindy. He’s obsessed with her!

Up until now I always thought Lovie was just a sweet part of his childhood. But now I have learnt that she’s actually playing a VERY important role in his development and even future life.

If your little one also has a security blanket, or just an inane object that he’s attached to like my Sam with his Lovie, then you should feel very good about that. This is why.

‘A transitional object’

Also called a ‘transitional object’, a lovie or security blanket gives a child a great deal of comfort. Any parent of a little one who wails for their lovie when they’re upset, or doesn’t want to be separated from it, EVER, will know the reassurance it provides. But a lovie goes beyond just providing comfort.   

In 1951, child psychologist Dr. D.W. Winnicott first defined the lovie as “any material to which an infant attributes a special value and by means of which the child is able to make the necessary shift from the earliest oral relationship with mother to genuine object-relationships.”

In his view, a lovie helps our little people to navigate feelings of separation, helping them to cross the bridge from mum to becoming an independent person.

“The baby knows the teddy bear is not Mum, but the baby can get a certain satisfaction. It is neither Mum nor totally just a stuffed animal,” said psychologist Steve Tuber in an article in The New York Times


While it may seem that your lovie-dependent child is shy, needing a blankie to reassure them around people, or to help them feel comfortable in different settings (say at daycare), this comfort item may actually be helping to boost his confidence. 

In a 2011 study into children with ‘imaginary companies’ the researchers found that little ones with attachment items were “less shy and more focused than children without them”.

Contributes to good future relationships

What’s more, your child’s bond with their lovie, or ‘transitional object’ is also a good indicator for how they’ll go at interacting and creating future friendships.

In an article for Psychology Today titled, ‘More than just bears’ psychologist Colleen Goddard writes, “Human development is not possible without self-referential contexts and meanings.”

“Meanings are founded on the distinctions each person makes of the stimuli he or she engages with — mainly the object(s) they receive, choose, or discover which have an internal life of their own.”

Don’t insult the comforter

efuted, critiqued or denied in any way, attachment difficulties may arise later in life.”

“The object allows for and invites emotional well-being, and without such an object, true feelings may be concealed, suppressed, or dismissed as the infant/child has no other means by which to cope with, comprehend, and contend with the world.”

In short, your child’s blankie, favourite stuffed toy or even the kitchen tongs, is helping them to navigate life now, and also to become a functioning future adult. And we all want that for our kids!

This post originally appeared on Babyology.