How to cope when growing your family from two to three children

Kinderling News & Features

Upsizing to three kids means triple the love, but it can also mean triple the responsibilities and stress of running a family. 

As your tribe grows, there are many things to consider and prepare - starting with sleep arrangements, car upgrades, day care needs, work commitments and additional living expenses. 

Claire Wootton, now a mum of three children and founder of Mother Conference, shares her advice and experience of expanding her family; the joys and challenges as well as the practical and emotional parts of a bigger, busier household. 

Listen to Claire on Kinderling Conversation:

Take care of your mental health

With more babies sometimes comes more pressure. Postnatal depression affects one in seven women in Australia each year, and up to one in ten new dads. If you have experienced postnatal depression with your previous bubs, know what you need to feel supported during the transition period of having your new baby, and don't be afraid to ask for it. 

Ask for help

Ask friends and relatives for help when you need it. Do this before the baby is even born, if you feel like you might be shy asking later. Tell people in advance that you might say you’re okay in the moment, but deep down you’d really appreciate help with meals, pick-ups and drop-offs. 

Plan ahead

Adding to your brood can call for some big logistical changes, which are best thought about as soon as possible. What will your new sleeping arrangements be? Ideally, you don’t want bub in your older kids’ room, as they may wake each other up. Upsizing your car (to fit three car seats) and your pram/stroller combo are also necessary considerations. 

Know that your older children will be OK

It’s easy to worry about the emotional stress of adding an extra child to the existing clan. How will the older kids cope? Remember that you are a good parent, and your children will be fine. When you need a helping hand, don’t be afraid to put your children in the care of others that you know and trust, who will help you look out for their health and wellbeing. 

Enjoy the ride

Parents can have unrealistic expectations about what they can manage. So, if you can let this go, it will help you relax and enjoy the parenting ride a little bit more, and feel hopeful and good about what you’re doing.