5 strategies that help when you don't like your child's teacher

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It might be just a sense that something isn’t ‘right’, or maybe your child has come home upset and directly blames their teacher.

Whatever the reason for harboring negative feelings about your child’s teacher, the good news is there are some simple steps to help address the problem.

Jeff Kugler, a former principal and executive director of the Centre for Urban Schooling at the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education shared these five excellent tips with Today’s Parent.

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1. Don’t react in anger

Nobody wants to see their child upset, but I’s important to get some perspective on the situation, before you speak with the teacher. It also means not sharing your own negative feelings with the child, as this can make the situation worse. And apparently it becomes obvious to the teacher too, in their interactions with the child 

2. Take action quickly

If you notice a problem, then contact the teacher and request a meeting as soon as possible. If you don’t have a parent- teacher meetings coming up, email the teacher and ask to meet up. It shows your concern and will open the dialogue and help you to understand the teacher better. 

3. Spend some time observing the teacher

Offer to volunteer for a morning or afternoon session in the classroom so you can watch the teacher in action. This will help you establish if the problem is just with your child, or part of the teacher’s communication strategy with all their students. 

4. Talk to the principal

If you feel like your concerns are not being heard, make an appointment to discuss them with the principal. Jeff Kuger said most of these conversations are confidential and canprovide the space to be able to move your child into a classroom, if that’s piqued as a solution. 

5. Remember: The situation isn’t all bad

Handled with care everyone can learn something from a bit of personality differences. According to Jeff, children learn to recognize and work out personality differences, and teaches them how to deal with conflict in the future — a good life skill. Your job as a parent is to coach your child through challenging situations, not necessarily to shelter or remove them from all conflict. Says Kugler, “It’s part of learning to be an adult.”